When high school was finishing up for me, and I was staring at the blank space of several months before university started, I smiled to myse...

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When high school was finishing up for me, and I was staring at the blank space of several months before university started, I smiled to myself. "I'm going to have all this free time! I'll be able to grow my platform, put extra effort into my blog, and be more active on social media! Finally!"

That...didn't happen. In the slightest.

To be honest with all of you, I'm not entirely sure why I've been taking steps away from social media and being less active on it. I've got more time in some ways, but in other ways my life has done a one eighty in what I do everyday, where I work, where I go, who I'm with. Almost everything's changed.



I've been really down on myself lately, looking at dwindling number of views on blog posts, at how long it's been since I've mustered enough enthusiasm to write a Tweet, at the hours it takes for me to scrape up a basic blog post.

Am I losing my passion?

Certainly not for writing, and not for this wonderful community of readers and writers expanding across blogs and the platforms I am on, if quietly.

But I think I've been putting a lot of pressure on myself to jump into the buzz of social media, the lightning fast replies, the humour or encouragement that each Tweet is supposed to have, the constant scrolling, scrolling, scrolling.

As much as we talk about taking our time with our writing, there's this constant pressure to build platform. To grow, to reach thousands of readers before you even publish a book, to build up your own community and do everything at once. We're expected to create every day in small snippets to scream at the world that we still exist, that we're still here and scrabbling for our dreams.



It's like I think that with lower numbers or less engagement, people have stopped caring. And that's a very, very dangerous mindset. I've met some of my closest friends online, and social media is a great way to meet friends, but when did those meaningful interactions start because of a post? In my experience, these relationships have always truly begun by one on one messaging.

Numbers do not define us. Platform does not define us -- it's a marketing game that we're all being sucked into, thinking that we must be great and well known and have thousands of likes in order to be successful. Monetary wise, sure, that's probably the case.

But I don't want to be defined by my numbers or how often I tweet. That's not why I started writing. Numbers should never be my goal, but rather being here,  because this is where I want to be. Here, in this small space of the internet. Talking about writing and books and how hard it is to write this. Being here with all of you.

Maybe you've been battling this too, or maybe you're on fire in your social media. But whatever you do, don't let the numbers become how you define yourself. The second we start looking at our stats or comments for our worth, and not our Father above, we lose sight of everything. We forget the gifts we have been given, whether that be family or a safe country or beautiful surroundings or that one friend that completely gets you.




If all we do on social media and blogs is market ourselves, we're degrading ourselves down to a number. So let's stop beating ourselves up when the stats are low, when we're just not feeling like posting on social media. Find where your worth is.

Because it's not in that one comment. It's not in the numbers.

God crafted you, bit by bit, and nowhere in His book did He write He would only love you if your Instagram post got a hundred likes. He loves you always, high numbers or no.

I'm still struggling through this, still trying to make sense of my motivations when I approach my stats page. I don't have answers, but I'm slowly moving my worth away from cold black lines and to someone above infinitely loving no matter what.



This post was a jumble of thoughts, but I hope it might have resonated with some of you. Are you battling numbers and stats? How do you feel about your platform at the moment? Where do you find your worth?
Have a blessed day. <3


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  1. I struggle with this too! Taking breaks does seem to put everything in perspective. I'm not going to let it define me.

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    1. Breaks are great for that! They've really helped me, the hard part now is going back to being active on social media. :) Good on you Skye! <3

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  2. Thanks for this post! It's hard not to get caught up in the numbers with social media. This a great reminder to focus on what matters most. :)

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    1. You're very welcome Mallory, thanks so much for the encouragement! :) It's very hard, that's why it's a constant battle of the mind and heart!

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  3. This is something that ends up hitting me most at times when I'm particularly lonely and haven't had a lot of engagement on my blog. I tend to think that I'm not making an impact if people aren't commenting and telling me so (which I know is ridiculous, because I'm one of those people who often has no clue what to comment on a post), and since encouraging and helping people means so much to me it makes me feel like I'm failing. I don't often worry about the numbers themselves (though sometimes I do), but more about the impact or supposed lack thereof that I'm having on the people behind those numbers.

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    1. That makes sense, and I definitely understand that. I suppose we're the same in that we're looking for feedback that we're achieving what we hope to, and silence on the online world is very, very hard. Thanks so much for sharing. <3

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  4. I resonate 100%. It might be part of my personality, that I while I enjoy large social gatherings (like social media really is) I find I'm able to contribute most to this community when I've had time to really ponder thoughts and write them out in a long post or conversation one on one. I'm still struggling to find the balance of working with modern marketing on social media and still use the gifts that God has given me for presenting my thoughts in something longer and more personal than a quick Instagram post or Tweet. Thank you for this post though. I've been struggling with this a lot lately and it really helps to know I'm not alone <3

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    1. That makes a lot of sense Audrey! One of the hardest things I find with my own social media presence is balancing meaningful posts with the constant updates, content, etc. to make sure it remains alive. Absolutely, I feel the same way. I hope we can encourage each other throughout our struggles. You're very welcome, thank you for sharing. <3

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  5. I definitely took a step back from commenting and stuff and I find it odd that I did, since I love comments. I also noticed that I took a step back from all of my social media and stuff. Maybe it's a normal thing for it to be obsessed for a year or so and then back off of it as needs go?

    I do agree, God is more important than any social media growth. It honestly annoys me when people try for subscribe goals and stuff. "Let your content speak for itself" is my motto.

    Awesome post, Melissa!

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    1. It seems that way! I was the same way, always constantly commenting, Tweeting, taking pictures, and so on. I hope it is normal, because it would make a lot of people feel better I think. :)

      Yes, so true! God is the most important part of my life, but social media wise I hope to aim for building a solid foundation of support and community as opposed to numbers that never interact.

      Thanks so much! <3

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  6. I’ve definitely struggled with this especially when I know how platform can be so important for an author. I feel like I often find times on social media when I honestly have nothing to say on some days. My Instagram is pretty dormant unless I’ve been traveling or I attend an event. I only update my Twitter when I’ve done something writing related and Facebook I mostly talk about my blog posts and sometimes writing. I’ve found that I just try to post on social media accounts when I feel like I have something worthwhile to share and discuss and that’s been working for me so far.

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    1. I've the same struggles Victoria, thank you for sharing; it's encouraging to know I'm not alone. It's dangerous in a way how social media makes us think that we constantly need to be updating our feeds in order to stay relevant, loved, etc. That's a good strategy! And I'm sure your followers can see the honesty and care in those posts, that there's a reason you're putting them up. <3

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